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Nurture for the human spirit come from our roots—our root system is formed by the time we are 6 years old. Bitter root judgments and bitter root expectancies rob us of the fullness of the abundant life Jesus came to give to us. The formation of bitter roots may have even occurred while in-utero (Psalm 58:3). The power of bitter roots comes from the unchangeable laws of God-we reap what we have sown. Judgments formed consciously and unconsciously are lodged in our heart and form neurological pathways in our brain and heart which operate in our lives to defile-they are a negative force. As one of the most potent forces operating within us these bitter roots bring forth-bear-fruit that is not good; causing trouble and/or destruction to us and those around us. Repeated bitter root judgments form patterns of bitter-root expectancy, which operate on the psychological level.
14Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification with out which no one will see the Lord. 15See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled (Hebrews 12:14-15)
13Who among you is wise and understanding? Let him show by his good behavior his deeds in the gentleness of wisdom. 14But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. 15This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. 16For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing. 17But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. 18And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace (James 3:13-18).
Tracking Fruit to Root-
16You will know them by their fruits. Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they? 17So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. 18A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. 19every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20So them you will know them, by their fruits (Matthew 7:16-20, Jesus speaking).
43For there is no good tree which produces bad fruit, nor on the other hand, a bad tree which produces good fruit. 44 For which tree is known by its own fruit. For men do not gather figs from thorns, nor do they pick grapes from a briar bush. 45 The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for this mouth speaks from that which fills his heart Luke 6:43-45, Jesus speaking).
So then you shall know them by their fruits (Matthew 7:19, Jesus speaking).
God’s law of Sowing and Reaping-
Galatians 6:6-14 “The one who is taught the word is to share all good things with the one who teaches him. 7 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. 8 For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. 9 Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary. 10 So then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who are of the household of the faith.
Jesus took the cup of our sin—what we sow—and offered us the gift of salvation. Without the acceptance of His free gift of salvation, we reap the consequences—death.
God’s law of Judgment
Matthew 7:1-2 (Jesus speaking) “Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2 for in the way you judge, you will be judged; and your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.”
Romans 2:1-2 “Therefore you have no excuse, everyone of you who passes judgment, for in that which you judge another, you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things. 2 And we know that the judgment of God rightly falls upon those who practice such things.”
Hosea 8:7 “for they sow the wind and they reap the whirlwind. The standing grain has no heads; it yields no grain. Should it yield, strangers would swallow it up.
Also see James 4:12 and I Corinthians 6:2-3.
God’s law of Defilement
Hebrews 12:15 “See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled;”
Mathewt 15:11, 18-20 (Jesus speaking) “It is not what enter into the mouth that defiles the man, but what proceeds out of the mouth,, this defiles the man. 18 But the things that proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and those defile the man. 19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders. 20 These are the things which defile the man; but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile the man.”
Matthew 12:35 (Jesus speaking) “The good man brings out of his good treasure what is good; and the evil man brings out of his evil treasure what is evil.”
I Corinthians 3:17 “If any man destroys the temple of God, God will destroy him for the temple of God is holy, and that is what you are.”
Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
Pulling up Roots
Matthew 15:13 (Jesus speaking) “Every plant which My heavenly Father did not plant shall be uprooted.”
Matthew 7:16-20 (Jesus speaking) “You will know them by their fruits, grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they? 17 So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 So then, you will know them by their fruits.”
2 Peter 1:5-8 “Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence, in you faith supply moral excellence, and in you moral excellence, knowledge, 6 and in your knowledge, self-control, and in you self-control, perseverance, and in you perseverance, godliness, 7 and in your godliness, brotherly kindness, and your brotherly kindness, love. 8 For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, the render you neither useless no unfruitful in the true knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
- Because of what God has done for us, we need to actively supply to our lives the qualities listed in these verses.
- Without these qualities a believer will be useless and unfruitful, having closed his eyes to his responsibilities and having forgotten the former sins from which he was saved.
Fruit of the Spirit
Galatians 5:16, 22-23 “But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”
Walk in New Life-bitter roots must go to the cross in repentance to break their power, sometimes it has to be done regularly until the structure-neurological pathway- is dismantled. Christ’s work at the cross (the Old Covenant-God’s Plumb Line for vertical/upright alignment is crossed by the New Covenant-God’s grace and mercy) is a vital art of every nurturing relationship.
Luke 9:25 (Jesus speaking) “For what is a man profited if he gains the whole world, and loses or forfeits himself?”
Romans 6:6-14 “Knowing this that our old self was crucified with him, in order that our body of sin might be done away with, so that we would no longer be slaves to sin; 7 for he who has died is freed from sin. 8 Now if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him, 9 knowing that Christ, having been raised from the dead, is never to die again; death no longer is master over Him. 10 For the death that He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. 11 Even so consider yourselves to be dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus. 12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, 13 and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. 14 For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”
Galatians 5:24-25 “Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live by the Spirit let us also walk by the Spirit.”
Luke 9:23 (Jesus speaking) “If anyone wishes to come after me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me.”
Romans 6:1 “What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase?”
I John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sis and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
Philippians 3:11-15 “In order that I may attain to the resurrection from the dead. 12 Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus.”
Galatians 2:20-21 “I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives I me; and the life which I now live is the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me. 21 I do not nullify the grace of God, for if righteousness comes through the Law, then Christ died needlessly.”
Psalms 51:10 “Create in me a clean hear, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. “
See also lessons on Forgiveness and Basic Trust.
Restitution-after repentance-restitution is God’s law for restoring relationship. Restitution writes the cost of sin upon our hearts and brings about restoration of trust in relationships that have been fractured by our sinful behavior. It is the fruit of full repentance, which may lead others to repentance. See also lesson on Repentance and Restitution.
I Samuel 15:24 “Then Saul said to Samuel, ‘I have sinned; I have indeed transgressed the command of the Lord and our words, because I feared the people and listened to their voice.”
Psalms 51:17 “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise.”
Exodus 22:1-4 “If a man steals an ox or a sheep and slaughters it or sells it, he shall pay five oxen for the ox and four sheep for the sheep. 2 If the thief is caught while breaking in and is struck so that he dies, there will be no blood guiltiness on his account. 3 But if the sun has risen on him, there will be blood guiltiness on his account. He shall surely make restitution; if he owns nothing; then he shall be sold for his theft. 4 If what he stole is actually found alive in his possession, whether an ox or a donkey or a sheep, he shall pay double.”
Leviticus 6:1-5 “Then the Lord spoke to Moses, saying, 2 ‘When a person sins and acts unfaithfully against the Lord, and deceives his companion in regard to a deposit or a security entrusted to him, or through robbery, or if he has extorted from his companion, 3 or has found what was lost and lied about it and sworn falsely, so that he sins in regard to any one of the things a man may do;4 then it shall, when he sins and becomes guilty, that he shall restore what he took by robbery or what he got by extortion, or the deposit which was entrusted to him or the lost thing which he found, 5 or anything about which he swore falsely; he shall make restitution for it in full and add to it one-fifth more. He shall give it to the one to whom it belongs on the day he presents his guilt offering.”
Luke 19:1-9 “He entered Jericho and was passing through. 2 And there was a man called by the name of Zaccheus; he was a chief tax collector and he was rich. 3 Zaccheus was trying to see who Jesus was, and was unable because of the crowd, for he was small in stature. 4 So he ran on ahead and climbed up into a sycamore tree in order to see Him, for he was about to pass through that way. 5 when Jesus came to the place He looked up and said to him, ‘Zaccheus hurry and come down, for today I must stay at your house.’ 6 And he hurried and came down and received Him gladly. 7 When they saw it, thy all began to grumble, saying, ‘He has gone to be the guest of a man who is a sinner.’ 8 Zaccheus stopped and said to the Lord, ‘Behold, Lord, half of my possessions I will give to the poor, and if I have defrauded anyone of anything, I will give back four times as much.’ 9 and Jesus said to him, ‘today salvation has come to this house, because he too, is a son of Abraham.”
Bitter roots are often hard to recognize. An example-A child who was deprived of food may form a bitter root-I am not going to receive adequate nourishment. This person may be unable to control the intake of food because they feel they MUST eat when it is available. This also applies to love. A child deprived of love forms a bitter root-I am not going to be loved and becomes a person looking for love “in all the wrong places”. See James 3:14, 4:1-2.
Nabal-I Samuel 25
Balaam-Numbers 25, 31:15-16, 2 Peter 2:16, Jude 11 and Revelations 2:
Daddy’s home the speaker’s words reverberated in my head. Each time it was spoken a gentle stream of tears softly rolled from my eyes down my cheeks. The trickle would slow and again the speaker would say “Daddy’s Home” and the gentle stream reasserted itself.
Mary, the speaker, talked of precious, cherished, childhood moments; when she would run to her Daddy, greeting him as he arrived home from work. Her reward for this attention was to be lifted up and folded in his arms as he danced around with his little girl. For that moment, she was secured in the protective shield of Daddy’s arms. All was right with the world and nothing could harm her.
Joy radiated from her eyes as she spoke the words “Daddy’s home”.
The tears I shed seemed to be tears of joy as I basked in her pleasure and delight. Her explanation of this precious time in her life included an explanation of her Father. “He was a workaholic,” she said, “which made these times all the more precious”. She saw it as a moment when he allowed his little girl to pierce the shield of protection he had placed around himself and momentarily let her share a loving moment of closeness.
As Mary continued to talk and the class continued, the tears began to soften the crustiness around my heart and loosen it so that the tears could wash it away. The deep secrets of my heart were exposed, revealing a deep sadness not the joy of a celebrating with my teacher.
I began to sense the presence of the Father, reaching down toward a deep and bitter root, revealing the struggle of the experiences that had allowed that root to grow and settle within me.
In a flashback I remembered my children saying Dad’s here and I would feel troubled inside. My mind became flooded with questions. Would he come in fussing at the kids and grumbling about what the day’s events had brought to him or what he saw wrong in what I had been doing? Often I waited for his embrace and a kiss only to be disappointed. A tear was tucked into my heart and the expected bitter root continued to grow.
Then God took me deeper with the flashbacks further into the past. My stepfather would come home, not really Daddy, but one who made an effort to temporarily fill that place in my life. He brought the pain of his day into the front door, usually covered by a coat of alcohol. I knew I would probably be beaten for something; there was no staying out of his way. A tear fell and added to the bitter root growing within my heart.
For about eight (8) years I had lived with my grandparents. My grandfather tried to fill the role of Daddy in my life. He and I had many beautiful moments together, always on his terms. I seemed to stir up the temper in him and truthfully, looking back, I began to realize I had worked to find ways to stir up his temper because of my own anger at him for running my Dad off and not allowing me any contact with him.
On down to the depth of the root I found my Dad. Some days, he would come home and I would run into his strong arms and he would enfold me. Some days my run to him stopped quickly as he staggered into the house, not interested in the little girl who longed for the comfort of his arms.
The words “Daddy’s home” brought fear of rejection, insecurity.
I did not wait for Daddy to come home. I did not want to deal with the hurt and pain.
The bitter root built by my tears and pain was defiling my life. Only God could heal the hurt and pain. Tears flowed and Jesus came.
Celebration came when I could realize that as Mary had said,” Our heavenly Daddy is always home, with arms outstretched to receive us. There is no rejection. He is ready to receive His child and this is “Good News” Daddy’s Home.
© 2012 JRCM Inc. Brenda Klutz Blakely
Gift Giving Pressure Cooker
The first year after Mother, Jean, and I had moved out of the house on Chestnut Street and into Momie Nell and Popie Carl’s house was quite an adjustment for all. The visits from my Dad to Popie Carls’ house were a little less than spectacular. Popie Carl often greeted my Dad with a shotgun and a lot less than a hospitable attitude.
I felt it was up to me to protect my Dad from what appeared to me as an out of control, foot stomping, pistol packing machine, whose verbal bellowing matched his actions. Christmas time did not mellow Popie Carl’s approach to my Dad visits.
I reckon it was my Dads’ effort to properly arm me if I was going to effectively protect the territory. But his gift of six-shooters with full dress holsters was a bit large for me as a rather petite 6 year old. However, I felt rather adequate to this situation as I took both hands and pointed the shooters at any offending party. My knees however, tend to buckle somewhat before shots could be fired, I had no idea I had really been rendered rather ineffective.
My mother however, had an entirely different perspective on this Christmas present. It was a “stupid gift” she declared. Your father does not know what to give his daughter. “Six Shooters are a stupid gift”. These words hid somewhere inside of me. At age fifty-seven (57) I learned they had unknowingly colored my concept of gifts and affected me until I released them.
Mother solved the “stupid Gift” problem by giving these six shooters to my older boy cousin, who thoroughly enjoyed them and I was glad of that. But, it broke the tiny heart of a very confused, sad, and soon to be very angry, six year old little girl, who longed for the gift from her Dad.
For the gift from her Dad was really all the weapon she felt she had against the topsy turvey world she had entered into when divorce entered her life.
Every year I would receive special gifts from my husband, who tried hard to please me. He may have had his own gift giving hang ups but his intentions were honorable and he remained steadfast in his effort.
My bitter root judgment tainted our joy at Christmas even though my husband accepted it, bought at places I could exchange and helped me each year to exchange his gift.
As God dug deeper into the recesses of my soul where I had tucked this judgment and others. I also found there was another gift episode I had tucked away. My father had given me a “drum major”. This gift was given while we still lived together as a family.
He was about as tall as I, a petite –4 year old, and spent a lot of his time in my closet, as Mother was not particularly fond of this gift either.
On the eve of our “leaving” my father, the “Drum Major’ was to cumbersome to accompany us, so he got left in the closet.
Ongoing pleas to my Mother to go and get him were accompanied by “It was a stupid gift for a little girl anyway”. This did not quieten my longing for my “Drum Major” but eventually I accepted, he probably went with the house and was nowhere I would be able to find him.
On the evening God broke through the hardened walls of my heart to find a little girl, who expected “stupid gifts” from her Dad, I realized that I had transferred the “stupid gift” attribute to my husband along with some other mistrust and expected behavior patterns. It was time to let God take care of those wounds and my sinful reaction to them. A ten hour crying marathon produced enough tears to wash the burden away and let God work.
Later on my husband helped by hunting diligently for a “drum major”. Of course his picture of a drum major didn’t fit mine and when I found one we both got a good laugh.
Now I can enjoy his gifts and he is out of the gift giving pressure cooker.
© 2012 JRCM Inc. Brenda Klutz Blakely
All of the men in my life had special character qualities that were covered up by my judgements/bitter roots. Repenting, forgiving and God’s redemptive and restorative powers gave freedom for those qualities to bloom and for me to enjoy the beauty of them.
For many bitter roots are the root cause of depression and maybe even bi polar/split spirit manifestations. Bitter roots contribute to mental, emotional, spiritual and physical illnesses.