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Frying Pan Prayers

After sending Sharon to the kitchen for a frying pan, Joe instructed Joel to walk and he followed Joel across the room. Laughter covered the room as Joe wielded the frying pan in a mock beating as the prophet’s voice announced the proceeding in tongues.

I shrank back not knowing what to expect.

Then Sharon interpreted “You have been beating this man with prayer for years. God has heard and He will answer.”

We all stood there speechless as I turned red as a beet and began the process of accepting the Word from God. Joel and the audience just stared. The truth sinking in and becoming a reality took time.

Over and over again those words rang in my ears. Life changing events do not announce themselves beforehand so you are not always prepared. Elijah House Basic I and II classes in Chelsea, Alabama had exceeded the expectations. God shaped and molded us thru the teaching but being broken had to come first. God had His ways. The joy and pain of this event were indelibly impressed on our minds.

I don’t know that I prayed in the right way but they were abundant. This man, I had married, missed so much of life; the one I believe God had intended, because of His anger and bitter roots. Our family needed help and I concluded that God was the only one that could do it, so I shot up prayers, day and night.

God has truly answered those prayers. We are not the same people after His intervention into our lives. He was even able to tune us together enough for each of us to earn a Master’s degree in Education together and to write a book as co authors. For those who know our history and have lived it with us, this is nothing short of a great BIG miracle.

It all started with me trusting God. I trusted no one, not even myself and my husband had not proven himself to be trustable. God showed me that I could trust and obey and He would do the rest. It became very clear that even if I could not trust my husband at that time, I could trust God and I lived in that truth for a long time.

Joel and I celebrated our 51st anniversary last year. When this event happened we had been married thirty-six (36) years. These days Joel and I lean on God first and then put our foot forth and trust Him to guide us. I still pray for Joel but now we pray for each other and pray a lot together as we read and study God’s Word. We seek how we will answer the Call.



Bible study for the serious Bible student. How will you answer the Call?

Surprise in the Suitcase

A preacher friend of ours told a story from his less than creditable youth, when he and two other equally adventurous boys trapped and fished down in the South Mississippi bayous. This day fishing t’weren’t good so they stopped to check the traps, hoping to take home supper.


One of the traps held a catch but it took a bit of hard thinking to ‘figger” out just what to do with the contents. The yowling and growling convinced them that taking in this catch was not going to be fun or easy.


They finally came upon the idea of using a suitcase left in the trunk of the car. All it took was a little teamwork and quick thinking to complete the tedious task then, the next question popped up; what are we going to do with it now that it is in there?


As the suitcase began to slow it’s raucous gallop somewhat and the roars and rumbles got a little quieter, the natural mischievous nature of the threesome began to rise up over their fear.


After carefully placing the suitcase in the nearby roadway, they hid behind the bushes. It was a short wait before they heard a car coming over the hill. Anticipation turned to disappointment when it drove on by.


Excitement was reclaimed as the car reeled around and stopped by the suitcase lying in the road. One man jumped from the car, looked around, grabbed the suitcase and jumped back into the already crowded car. Tires squealed as they took off.


About a 100 yards down the road the car screeched to an almost halt; four doors opened as it careened wildly across the pavement and six passengers bailed out. One hurtin’, injured Bobcat headed back for his natural domain; all the while keeping folks both near and far posted on his whereabouts and loudly proclaiming his thoughts on the doings of the human beings in that part of South Mississippi.


Three boys went home empty handed with minds full of the adventure and the wisdom of life. Nobody we know of hung around long enough to get a report or interview from the passengers in the car.



JRCM INC @ 2008

Marriage, What’s In the Suitcase. As marriage partners we carry a “suitcase” full of experiences and pictures of life, which may or may not be beneficial. The things in the “suitcase” may help or hinder our married life. It is food for thought.

How will you answer the Call?

How Will You Answer the Call?

“Stop, look, and listen.” pick up your copy of God’s Word, the Bible, and read God’s Words. God’s Words, the Bible, are a call to the lost and instruction for the edification of the saints. Rightly handled (2 Timothy. 2:15), these words will bring Truth to Light in your life and the lives of those around you. God’s Word read under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, with your permission, will bring about a renewal of your mind so that you are able to live in the fullness of all God intended for you.

God has planned for you to be fitted for kingdom service. He has prepared garments of learning, protection, and sustenance for you to clothe and equip yourself for service (Ephesians 6:10–17) and provided His Word, the Bible, for instruction and the Holy Spirit to counsel and guide you as you learn and apply His lessons to your life (Romans 12:2). God knows your every need, and He knows what is ahead and behind you. Wherever you go, He is already there. He will walk every step of the way with you if you let Him.

God’s Word is the Way, the Truth, and the Light, ancient words preserved for us to find our way. God’s Word is life to sinners that were, in the first place, created for a purpose, to glorify our Father, God (1 Corinthians. 6:20).

God’s word is;

God breathed-

2 Timothy 3:16 “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.”

Sharper than a two-edged sword-

Hebrews 4:12 “For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.”

Truth for the building up and edification of the saints-

Ephesians 4:12-16 “For the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, 13till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ; 14that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, 15but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ—16from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love.”

God’s Word is alive and at work in those who hear and read it, just as it was in the days when Ezra read God’s Word to the Israelites returning from Babylon. The reading/hearing of God’s Word brought His people into the conviction of sin. The power of God’s Word astonished Ezra.

Ezra 9:4 “Then everyone who trembled at the words of the God of Israel assembled to me, because of the transgression of those who had been carried away captive, and I sat astonished until the evening sacrifice.”

The midnight hour (Matthew 25:1–13) when we shall be going home is fast approaching. It is time to “awaken from sleep” (Romans 13:11, 1 Thessalonians. 5:4–6), be alert (Matthew 24:42), and “being sent out the midst of wolves … be wise as serpents and harmless as doves” (Matthew 10:16). God’s word is as a sword cutting to “separate even the bone from the marrow” to equip us for this work.

God has issued The 11:45 Call, warning us the midnight hour and day of judgment will come. You can be prepared, equipped and ready in every way, but you must choose.

How will you answer the Call?


Present and Snatch-The 11:45 Call Ponder Points Jude 20

The 11:45 Call


Ponder Points


for JUDE 20


Romans 12:1-2 “I beseech you brethren to present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.2And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”


  • What do you hear God saying to you in this passage?


  • How could these words impact your life to make it better?


  • What do you think God wants you to do after reading these words?


  • How does this scripture align with Romans 1:28-32?


  • Is there a better way than the way you are living right now?


  • How will you share this message with others (JUDE 23)?


Seasalt Speaks,


“I do not know all the answers. Many times I don’t even know the question. But I do know who holds the answers and who holds my tomorrow.”

How will you answer the Call?

How will you answer the Call?

Caught in a web of deception, where can I turn, what can I do?

There is hope for those waiting for the light. God’s word is sure and true.

God has issued The 11:45 Call.

  • Contend for the faith.
  • Be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.
  • Be equipped and prepared to discern truth from lies.
  • Be ready to “snatch those around us from the fire.
  • Remember, God’s word will not come back void. 

It is a Walk of Faith

Walking by faith requires that we let God lead the walk. OK I accept that and try to live by that. Then God shows me a picture; I actually do my best walking when I come from being down-usually physically but sometimes emotionally or mentally- and all I can do is to look up. It is often these times when God issues a call, “Arise my child”, “follow me”, “lo I will be with you”, “come walk with me” “I have a plan for you”.

My first response is often but Lord, I can’t, I am not doing well right now, I need to be fit for your service. This is the time when 2 Corinthians 9:9-11 and Philippians 4:13 come into play and I need to be reminded and gain a deeper understanding of just what is happening here.

Receiving the Keys to Wayne’s White Merc was one of those times.

Inner City Kids Find the Father Lode

            Receiving the keys to Wayne Carr’s big white “Merc” at the HIMC Sunday evening service ended preparation and began the trip-adventure-step of faith. It was both a beginning and an end. Today culminated six (6) months of intense fund raising and learning experiences. As the youth worked to earn the money for this trip, they had learned responsibility, give and take and hard work has its own rewards. Individuals and businesses demonstrated their faith by offering opportunities for the youth to “work” for a donation. They had cleaned up Valley Gas’s recreation area, served as waiters and waitresses for corporate banquets and special events, cleaned up for the elderly and the not so elderly, and provided sitting services for both human and animal clients.

The goal had been reached and the journey began as the Rock House Kids and staff left downtown Jackson at 7:00 A.M. on Monday morning August 1, 1994, destination Tifton, Ga. and the 1994 Eastern AIM Youth Camp. No sooner had we assembled the caravan and put pedal to the metal on I-20 than I was struck with a few pertinent facts.

We asked these kids and their parents, who had known us for approximately 4 months, to trust us to take them 429 miles there and 429 miles back, feed them, care for them etc. for one week. Wow, what courage and trust these youngsters had. I was struck with admiration. I still have no idea of what they really expected, but I pray we measured up. I didn’t stop to think at that time that we had presented little evidence for their trust except to love them. We were working on very limited worldly resources and a lot of faith.

By reason of our time of arrival we skipped the part of camp where you wander around getting acquainted and went straight to the eating part and then on to the evening service time; we got to see God begin his work immediately. We had seen his hand in the preparation, but now hearts were laid before him at the altar and our kids were some of the first to respond. This was just the first blessing.

Joseph took with him, in August, in the South, his big winter coat, fit for the Arctic. Joseph wears it in new circumstances, kind of like a security blanket (he wore it the 1st 3 months at The Rock House). I knew things were going well when the 2nd day he took off his coat. It went back on a few times during the week., but watching him play basketball and chat with the other guys, with out the coat, I knew all was O. K.

After the initial step to the altar, our kids became like thirsty sponges , they took notes, studied, came to followup everyday, asked questions and wanted all God had to give. I’ll never forget Tameka and Sha studying and going over their notes by flashlight in the middle of the night.

Through the week they shared, swam, played, ate and waited patiently for every class to begin. On Thursday they sang the special music and were well received (even the choreography). Shewania, a staff member, blessed us all several times during the week with beautiful song.

Comments that were made by the kids such as “it was great not to have to worry about getting shot at” and “things were so nice at camp”; made us realize what the week really meant to them.

Joseph told the rest of The Rock House Kids that “camp was cool”. All of the kids who went have expressed a desire to go back next year and are already making plans. But most important, we see a difference in their lives and they ask for prayer to live as Christians in a tough world, where they take the new skills learned from the whole adventure.

God provided for this trip in a wonderful way. After buying pizza on the way home, we even rolled back into town with $.07 left over.

I love it when God’s plan comes together.

This is all I need to answer the question WHY but then here I go again?

Note: Joel and Brenda Blakely were part of THE ROCKHOUSE staff from 1992 to 1995.

We learned maybe more than they did. This act of faith has helped us so many times when we began to question God’s call to face uncertain times and circumstances.

Here he is again asking us to GO!!!-at our advanced age and some what less than perfect physical condition and on top of that, without worldly resources and serve Him with all that He has blessed us to have. Help me to praise you God. Thank you for giving me the opportunity especially as I am unworthy. I am so blessed.

Prayer needed!!!!!!!!


You don’t have to live there, Freedom the Price Has Been Paid

Freedom the Price is Paid ©




Nurture for the human spirit come from our roots—our root system is formed by the time we are 6 years old. Bitter root judgments and bitter root expectancies rob us of the fullness of the abundant life Jesus came to give to us. The formation of bitter roots may have even occurred while in-utero (Psalm 58:3). The power of bitter roots comes from the unchangeable laws of God-we reap what we have sown.  Judgments formed consciously and unconsciously are lodged in our heart and form neurological pathways in our brain and heart which operate in our lives to defile-they are a negative force. As one of the most potent forces operating within us these bitter roots bring forth-bear-fruit that is not good; causing trouble and/or destruction to us and those around us. Repeated bitter root judgments form patterns of bitter-root expectancy, which operate on the psychological level.


Scripture support-


14Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification with out which no one will see the Lord.  15See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled (Hebrews 12:14-15)


13Who among you is wise and understanding?  Let him show by his good behavior his deeds in the gentleness of wisdom. 14But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. 15This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. 16For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing. 17But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. 18And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace (James 3:13-18).


Tracking Fruit to Root-

16You will know them by their fruits.  Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they? 17So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. 18A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. 19every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20So them you will know them, by their fruits (Matthew 7:16-20, Jesus speaking).


43For there is no good tree which produces bad fruit, nor on the other hand, a bad tree which produces good fruit. 44 For which tree is known by its own fruit.  For men do not gather figs from thorns, nor do they pick grapes from a briar bush. 45 The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for this mouth speaks from that which fills his heart Luke 6:43-45, Jesus speaking).


So then you shall know them by their fruits (Matthew 7:19, Jesus speaking).

God’s law of Sowing and Reaping-

Galatians 6:6-14 “The one who is taught the word is to share all good things with the one who teaches him. 7 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. 8 For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. 9 Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary. 10 So then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who are of the household of the faith.


Jesus took the cup of our sin—what we sow—and offered us the gift of salvation. Without the acceptance of His free gift of salvation, we reap the consequences—death.


God’s law of Judgment

Matthew 7:1-2 (Jesus speaking) “Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2 for in the way you judge, you will be judged; and your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.”


Romans 2:1-2 “Therefore you have no excuse, everyone of you who passes judgment, for in that which you judge another, you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things. 2 And we know that the judgment of God rightly falls upon those who practice such things.”


Hosea 8:7 “for they sow the wind and they reap the whirlwind.  The standing grain has no heads; it yields no grain.  Should it yield, strangers would swallow it up.

Also see James 4:12 and I Corinthians 6:2-3.


God’s law of Defilement

Hebrews 12:15 “See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled;”


Mathewt 15:11, 18-20 (Jesus speaking) “It is not what enter into the mouth that defiles the man, but what proceeds out of the mouth,, this defiles the man. 18 But the things that proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and those defile the man. 19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders. 20 These are the things which defile the man; but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile the man.”


Matthew 12:35 (Jesus speaking) “The good man brings out of his good treasure what is good; and the evil man brings out of his evil treasure what is evil.”


I Corinthians 3:17 “If any man destroys the temple of God, God will destroy him for the temple of God is holy, and that is what you are.”


Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”


Pulling up Roots

Matthew 15:13 (Jesus speaking) “Every plant which My heavenly Father did not plant shall be uprooted.”


Matthew 7:16-20 (Jesus speaking) “You will know them by their fruits, grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they? 17 So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 So then, you will know them by their fruits.”


2 Peter 1:5-8 “Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence, in you faith supply moral excellence, and in you moral excellence, knowledge, 6 and in your knowledge, self-control, and in you self-control, perseverance, and in you perseverance, godliness, 7 and in your godliness, brotherly kindness, and your brotherly kindness, love. 8 For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, the render you neither useless no unfruitful in the true knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

  • Because of what God has done for us, we need to actively supply to our lives the qualities listed in these verses.
  • Without these qualities a believer will be useless and unfruitful, having closed his eyes to his responsibilities and having forgotten the former sins from which he was saved.


Fruit of the Spirit

Galatians 5:16, 22-23 “But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”


Walk in New Life-bitter roots must go to the cross in repentance to break their power, sometimes it has to be done regularly until the structure-neurological pathway- is dismantled.  Christ’s work at the cross (the Old Covenant-God’s Plumb Line for vertical/upright alignment is crossed by the New Covenant-God’s grace and mercy) is a vital art of every nurturing relationship.


Luke 9:25 (Jesus speaking) “For what is a man profited if he gains the whole world, and loses or forfeits himself?”


Romans 6:6-14 “Knowing this that our old self was crucified with him, in order that our body of sin might be done away with, so that we would no longer be slaves to sin; 7 for he who has died is freed from sin. 8 Now if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him, 9 knowing that Christ, having been raised from the dead, is never to die again; death no longer is master over Him. 10 For the death that He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. 11 Even so consider yourselves to be dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus. 12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, 13 and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. 14 For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”


Galatians 5:24-25 “Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live by the Spirit let us also walk by the Spirit.”


Luke 9:23 (Jesus speaking) “If anyone wishes to come after me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me.”


Romans 6:1 “What shall we say then?  Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase?”


I John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sis and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”


Philippians 3:11-15 “In order that I may attain to the resurrection from the dead. 12 Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus.”


Galatians 2:20-21 “I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives I me; and the life which I now live is the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me. 21 I do not nullify the grace of God, for if righteousness comes through the Law, then Christ died needlessly.”


Psalms 51:10 “Create in me a clean hear, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. “


See also lessons on Forgiveness and Basic Trust.


Restitution-after repentance-restitution is God’s law for restoring relationship. Restitution writes the cost of sin upon our hearts and brings about restoration of trust in relationships that have been fractured by our sinful behavior. It is the fruit of full repentance, which may lead others to repentance. See also lesson on Repentance and Restitution.


I Samuel 15:24 “Then Saul said to Samuel, ‘I have sinned; I have indeed transgressed the command of the Lord and our words, because I feared the people and listened to their voice.”


Psalms 51:17 “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise.”


Exodus 22:1-4 “If a man steals an ox or a sheep and slaughters it or sells it, he shall pay five oxen for the ox and four sheep for the sheep. 2 If the thief is caught while breaking in and is struck so that he dies, there will be no blood guiltiness on his account.  3 But if the sun has risen on him, there will be blood guiltiness on his account.  He shall surely make restitution; if he owns nothing; then he shall be sold for his theft. 4 If what he stole is actually found alive in his possession, whether an ox or a donkey or a sheep, he shall pay double.”


Leviticus 6:1-5 “Then the Lord spoke to Moses, saying, 2 ‘When a person sins and acts unfaithfully against the Lord, and deceives his companion in regard to a deposit or a security entrusted to him, or through robbery, or if he has extorted from his companion, 3 or has found what was lost and lied about it and sworn falsely, so that he sins in regard to any one of the things a man may do;4 then it shall, when he sins and becomes guilty, that he shall restore what he took by robbery or what he got by extortion, or the deposit which was entrusted to him or the lost thing which he found, 5 or anything about which he swore falsely; he shall make restitution for it in full and add to it one-fifth more.  He shall give it to the one to whom it belongs on the day he presents his guilt offering.”


Luke 19:1-9 “He entered Jericho and was passing through. 2 And there was a man called by the name of Zaccheus; he was a chief tax collector and he was rich. 3 Zaccheus was trying to see who Jesus was, and was unable because of the crowd, for he was small in stature. 4 So he ran on ahead and climbed up into a sycamore tree in order to see Him, for he was about to pass through that way. 5 when Jesus came to the place He looked up and said to him, ‘Zaccheus hurry and come down, for today I must stay at your house.’ 6 And he hurried and came down and received Him gladly. 7 When they saw it, thy all began to grumble, saying, ‘He has gone to be the guest of a man who is a sinner.’ 8 Zaccheus stopped and said to the Lord, ‘Behold, Lord, half of my possessions I will give to the poor, and if I have defrauded anyone of anything, I will give back four times as much.’ 9 and Jesus said to him, ‘today salvation has come to this house, because he too, is a son of Abraham.”


Bitter roots are often hard to recognize. An example-A child who was deprived of food may form a bitter root-I am not going to receive adequate nourishment.  This person may be unable to control the intake of food because they feel they MUST eat when it is available. This also applies to love. A child deprived of love forms a bitter root-I am not going to be loved and becomes a person looking for love “in all the wrong places”. See James 3:14, 4:1-2.


Bible Characters-

Jacob/Esau-Genesis 25-27

Nabal-I Samuel 25

Balaam-Numbers 25, 31:15-16, 2 Peter 2:16, Jude 11 and Revelations 2:



Daddy’s Home


Daddy’s home the speaker’s words reverberated in my head.  Each time it was spoken a gentle stream of tears softly rolled from my eyes down my cheeks.  The trickle would slow and again the speaker would say “Daddy’s Home” and the gentle stream reasserted itself.


Mary, the speaker, talked of precious, cherished, childhood moments; when she would run to her Daddy, greeting him as he arrived home from work.  Her reward for this attention was to be lifted up and folded in his arms as he danced around with his little girl.  For that moment, she was secured in the protective shield of Daddy’s arms.  All was right with the world and nothing could harm her. 


Joy radiated from her eyes as she spoke the words “Daddy’s home”.  


The tears I shed seemed to be tears of joy as I basked in her pleasure and delight.  Her explanation of this precious time in her life included an explanation of her Father.  “He was a workaholic,” she said, “which made these times all the more precious”.  She saw it as a moment when he allowed his little girl to pierce the shield of protection he had placed around himself and momentarily let her share a loving moment of closeness.


As Mary continued to talk and the class continued, the tears began to soften the crustiness around my heart and loosen it so that the tears could wash it away.  The deep secrets of my heart were exposed, revealing a deep sadness not the joy of a celebrating with my teacher.


I began to sense the presence of the Father, reaching down toward a deep and bitter root, revealing the struggle of the experiences that had allowed that root to grow and settle within me.


In a flashback I remembered my children saying Dad’s here and I would feel troubled inside.  My mind became flooded with questions. Would he come in fussing at the kids and grumbling about what the day’s events had brought to him or what he saw wrong in what I had been doing?  Often I waited for his embrace and a kiss only to be disappointed.  A tear was tucked into my heart and the expected bitter root continued to grow.


Then God took me deeper with the flashbacks further into the past.  My stepfather would come home, not really Daddy, but one who made an effort to temporarily fill that place in my life. He brought the pain of his day into the front door, usually covered by a coat of alcohol.   I knew I would probably be beaten for something; there was no staying out of his way. A tear fell and added to the bitter root growing within my heart.


For about eight (8) years I had lived with my grandparents. My grandfather tried to fill the role of Daddy in my life. He and I had many beautiful moments together, always on his terms.  I seemed to stir up the temper in him and truthfully, looking back, I began to realize I had worked to find ways to stir up his temper because of my own anger at him for running my Dad off and not allowing me any contact with him.


On down to the depth of the root I found my Dad.  Some days, he would come home and I would run into his strong arms and he would enfold me.  Some days my run to him stopped quickly as he staggered into the house, not interested in the little girl who longed for the comfort of his arms.


The words “Daddy’s home” brought fear of rejection, insecurity.


I did not wait for Daddy to come home.  I did not want to deal with the hurt and pain.


The bitter root built by my tears and pain was defiling my life.  Only God could heal the hurt and pain.  Tears flowed and Jesus came.


Celebration came when I could realize that as Mary had said,” Our heavenly Daddy is always home, with arms outstretched to receive us.  There is no rejection. He is ready to receive His child and this is “Good News” Daddy’s Home.


© 2012 JRCM Inc. Brenda Klutz Blakely




Gift Giving Pressure Cooker


The first year after Mother, Jean, and I had moved out of the house on Chestnut Street and into Momie Nell and Popie Carl’s house was quite an adjustment for all.  The visits from my Dad to Popie Carls’ house were a little less than spectacular.  Popie Carl often greeted my Dad with a shotgun and a lot less than a hospitable attitude.


I felt it was up to me to protect my Dad from what appeared to me as an out of control, foot stomping, pistol packing machine, whose verbal bellowing matched his actions.  Christmas time did not mellow Popie Carl’s approach to my Dad visits.


I reckon it was my Dads’ effort to properly arm me if I was going to effectively protect the territory.  But his gift of six-shooters with full dress holsters was a bit large for me as a rather petite 6 year old.  However, I felt rather adequate to this situation as I took both hands and pointed the shooters at any offending party.  My knees however, tend to buckle somewhat before shots could be fired, I had no idea I had really been rendered rather ineffective.


My mother however, had an entirely different perspective on this Christmas present.  It was a “stupid gift” she declared.  Your father does not know what to give his daughter.  “Six Shooters are a stupid gift”.  These words hid somewhere inside of me.  At age fifty-seven (57) I learned they had unknowingly colored my concept of gifts and affected me until I released them.


Mother solved the “stupid Gift” problem by giving these six shooters to my older boy cousin, who thoroughly enjoyed them and I was glad of that.   But, it broke the tiny heart of a very confused, sad, and soon to be very angry, six year old little girl, who longed for the gift from her Dad. 


For the gift from her Dad was really all the weapon she felt she had against the topsy turvey world she had entered into when divorce entered her life.


Every year I would receive special gifts from my husband, who tried hard to please me.  He may have had his own gift giving hang ups but his intentions were honorable and he remained steadfast in his effort.


My bitter root judgment tainted our joy at Christmas even though my husband accepted it, bought at places I could exchange and helped me each year to exchange his gift.


As God dug deeper into the recesses of my soul where I had tucked this judgment and others.  I also found there was another gift episode I had tucked away.  My father had given me a “drum major”. This gift was given while we still lived together as a family.


He was about as tall as I, a petite –4 year old, and spent a lot of his time in my closet, as Mother was not particularly fond of this gift either.


On the eve of our “leaving” my father, the “Drum Major’ was to cumbersome to accompany us, so he got left in the closet.


Ongoing pleas to my Mother to go and get him were accompanied by “It was a stupid gift for a little girl anyway”.  This did not quieten my longing for my “Drum Major” but eventually I accepted, he probably went with the house and was nowhere I would be able to find him.


On the evening God broke through the hardened walls of my heart to find a little girl, who expected “stupid gifts” from her Dad, I realized that I had transferred the “stupid gift” attribute to my husband along with some other mistrust and expected behavior patterns.  It was time to let God take care of those wounds and my sinful reaction to them. A ten hour crying marathon produced enough tears to wash the burden away and let God work.


Later on my husband helped by hunting diligently for a “drum major”.  Of course his picture of a drum major didn’t fit mine and when I found one we both got a good laugh.


Now I can enjoy his gifts and he is out of the gift giving pressure cooker.


© 2012 JRCM Inc. Brenda Klutz Blakely


All of the men in my life had special character qualities that were covered up by my judgements/bitter roots. Repenting, forgiving and God’s redemptive and restorative powers gave freedom for those qualities to bloom and for me to enjoy the beauty of them.

For many bitter roots are the root cause of depression and maybe even bi polar/split spirit manifestations. Bitter roots contribute to mental, emotional, spiritual and physical illnesses.

The Daily Walk of a Christian

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Ephesians 2:8-10 “For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, 9not of works, lest anyone should boast. 10For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”


of Obedience

James 2:14-26 “What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? 15If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, 16and one of you says to them, ‘Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,’ but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? 17Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. 18But someone…

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The Daily Walk of a Christian

The Daily Walk of a Christia



Ephesians 2:8-10 “For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, 9not of works, lest anyone should boast. 10For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”


of Obedience

James 2:14-26 “What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? 15If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, 16and one of you says to them, ‘Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,’ but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? 17Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. 18But someone will say, ‘You have faith, and I have works.’ Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works.  19You believe that there is one God. You do well. Even the demons believe—and tremble!  20But do you want to know, O foolish man, that faith without works is dead? 21Was not Abraham our father justified by works when he offered Isaac his son on the altar? 22Do you see that faith was working together with his works, and by works faith was made perfect?  23And the Scripture was fulfilled which says, ‘Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness.’  And he was called the friend of God. 24You see then that a man is justified by works, and not by faith only. 25Likewise, was not Rahab the harlot also justified by works when she received the messengers and sent them out another way? 26For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.”



Bear Fruit


Matthew 3:8-10 “‘Therefore bear fruits worthy of repentance, 9and do not think to say to yourselves, ‘We have Abraham as our father.’ For I say to you that God is able to raise up children to Abraham from these stones. 10And even now the ax is laid to the root of the trees. Therefore every tree which does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 


In Action

Matthew 16:24 “Then Jesus said to His disciples, ‘If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me.’”


Mark 8:34-35 “When He had called the people to Himself, with His disciples also, He said to them, ‘Whoever desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. 35For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake and the gospel’s will save it.’”


Luke 9:23-24 “Then He said to them all, ‘If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me. 24For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will save it.’”




In Power


Matthew 28:18-20 “And Jesus came and spoke to them, saying, ‘All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. 19Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.’ Amen.


Mark 16:15-16 “And He said to them, ‘Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. 16He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.’”




The Renewing Of Your Mind In Grace and Knowledge


Romans 12:2 “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”


2 Peter 3:18 “but grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To Him be the glory both now and forever. Amen.”


Let Your Light Shine Before Men


Matthew 5:16 “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.”


To God Be the Glory

Brenda Klutz Blakely is the coauthor of The 11:45 Call, An Expository Bible Study of the Book of Jude. You may read it on the free reads for review program at She is constantly amazed at what God can do with two donkeys.


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